NEW YORK (CBS 2) — Grow up, get married and have kids. It’s the cycle of life, but why do so many couples become disenchanted with this dream?

One controversial assessment on the state of marriage, by Episcopal minister turned author David Code, says the biggest problem facing many couples today is putting their children first when they should be focusing on each other.

CBS 2’s Kristine Johnson says it may sound counter-intuitive to many parents, but after years of counseling couples, Code contends making your children top priority is a growing problem in marriages today.

“These days it seems like parents are marrying their children instead of their spouses,” Code said.

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