NYC Mom Wants Relationship With Long-Lost Daughter

NEW YORK (CBSNewYork/AP) — The birth mother of a 23-year-old woman snatched from a New York City hospital when she was an infant says their reunion was a miracle but their relationship is difficult.

1010 WINS’ Juliet Papa reports on the latest development

Joy White said that she and Carlina White were like strangers and that she wants to spend time with her so they can get to know each other.

White said she understands why her daughter, who lives in Atlanta, would want to continue her relationship with her adoptive family. She said it’s because they’re the ones who raised her and that’s all she knows.

Ann Pettway is being held without bail on charges she kidnapped Carlina from Harlem Hospital in August 1987. The FBI says the Raleigh, N.C., woman took the newborn after her own efforts at childbearing failed.

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  1. mike jeffries says:

    This story is both heartwarming and difficult on so many different levels.

    Here’s hoping that all involved come to accept that the stolen years can’t be returned and that the focus should be on the present and future. People meet and form close, loving bonds every day. There is no reason why this mother and daughter can’t build the relationship that was never allowed to happen.


    mike jeffries
    Author, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation

  2. jtorres says:

    After 23 years, a relationship does not automatically materialize. All relationships develop over time, and after making efforts to foster & nurture it and working at it by both sides. It may come, but you can;t force it

    1. I'M HIS MOTHER says:

      @ jtorres..You’re absolutely right. It does not automatically “just happen”. To be a mother—“A good mother, takes YEARS to accomplish. As a mother of 4 young men..I breast fed ALL of them. IT TAKES WORK..SICK>>HAPPY SAD<>NO MONEY….IT TAKES WORK.
      JOY WHITE is basically like the lady behind Carlina at the check-out line. A STRANGER !. She’s mature enough “we hope” to now understand that she was abducted at birth and pretty much taught and molded by this apparently sick woman who had no mental value of what she was doing to this infant and her mother/father.
      She is now an adult and can make her own decisions as to what’s best for her..AND HER OWN CHILD. Joy did nothing wrong..she walked into a hospital with her ill child and NEVER thought for a moment that she would not see her again until 23 YRS LATER.
      Thank God Carlina has survived the life altering is now up to her if she wants to develop a relationship with her..BIRTH MOTHER.

  3. I'M HIS MOTHER says:

    This was a very touching story for me. I remember like yesterday when this story originally happened in 1987. I was young and a year in from healing about my own mothers’ death.
    The best thing she can do now is to let her daughter know that she loves her and wants to have a “mother-daughter” relationship. Yes they are like strangers due to a stranger driving a horrific wedge between them.
    It’s happened to me…not literally but..After raising my son for 15 of his 16 yrs and I’m/him has been a victim of brain-washing/parental alienation. He now nows that he needs me more than he needs them telling him that he doesn’t need me.
    They used him as a a pawn to hurt me. They are angry, bitter,spiteful and greedy people. You come across this type in everyday living but would never think they would darken your doorstep.

    Embrace your daughter and let her know that no matter what no matter where..I’m your MOM and I’m here for you.
    Tell her you love her every chance and it will eventually set in.

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