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Shirley Mom Daphne Melin Talks About Brawl Between Daughter, Girl, 12

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Daphne Melin outside her home on Sept. 13, 2011 (credit: Mona Rivera/1010 WINS)

Daphne Melin outside her home on Sept. 13, 2011 (credit: Mona Rivera/1010 WINS)

SHIRLEY, NY (CBSNewYork) –One Long Island town is still buzzing over a mother accused of driving her 12-year-old daughter to an elementary school to allegedly fight another 12-year-old girl.

Suffolk County police say Daphne Melin of Shirley drove her daughter Jade to the William Floyd Elementary School on Sunday afternoon and egged her on to brawl with another girl she had been fighting with on Facebook.

Melin Talks to 1010 WINS’ Mona Rivera:


“It progressed to a point where they agreed to meet at a local elementary school for a fight,” said Lt. Timothy Dillon, commander officer of the 7 precinct crime section who would not confirm that Melin is in fact the mother of one of the 12 year olds.

When the scuffle ended, police say the 32-year-old spit and cursed at another 12-year-old girl, who was watching the fight with a group of kids, after she criticized Melin for not breaking it up.

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“The 12-year-old girl was stating that it was not right that this adult would be standing there watching this fight going on and not attempting to break up the fight,” Dillon said.

According to Dillon, Melin then grabbed the girl by the hair and tried to knee her in the head several times.

Someone recorded it all on a cell phone and posted the video on YouTube and Facebook, but police say the video has since been taken down and seized as evidence.

Melin, a mother of three, said it didn’t happen that way and that her daughter is the victim of a cyber bully. ”They threatened to jump her in school, oh don’t worry we’ll take care of her tomorrow at school,” she first told 1010 WINS’ Mona Rivera. “It’s just a horrible nightmare.”

“It’s not true. I’m not the monster they make me out to be,” Melin told CBS2′s Jennifer McLogan. “I went to the principal last and week they didn’t do anything, said it was an online issue and they couldn’t do anything about it.”

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Melin’s next door neighbor Gina Parrinello said she found the whole incident hard to believe.

“She seemed like a normal stay-at-home mom,” said Parrinello.

On Tuesday, the William Floyd School District issued a statement:

“We were alerted this morning by the Suffolk County Police that a Shirley woman was arrested in connection with a fight that occurred over the weekend on our school property.

We were informed that the fight may have resulted from postings on Facebook among a group of teenage girls who are also students in our district.

We have no further comment as it is now a police matter.  We will continue to work cooperatively with the SCPD in their investigation.”

WCBS 880′s Sophia Hall: Authorities Are Calling This Crime Outrageous


Melin turned herself in. She’s charged with three counts of endangering the welfare of a child and one count of attempted assault.

She was released on bail and will be back in court on December 1.

What do you think? Sound off below in our comments section…

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  • Nec

    Who really cares? Kids fight all the time, big deal…

    • sowhat123

      exactly. the only reason this is news is because its CYBER-BULLYING!!!! the worst thing to happen to our society since the wedgie!

  • Lindsay Ward

    The problem is that a 32 yr old Mother fought a 12 who was trying to help the other girl!!!!!!!!! Are You a MOTHER????

    • Samantha

      The mother of the 12 year was righfully arrested for fighting the other 12 year old you criticized her for not breakiing up the fight no for trying to help the other girl.

  • LiberalsAreEvil

    Nothing good comes out of Long Island!!!

    • AF

      Joey Buttafuoco was good!!

  • Hampton Harry

    Shirley?………You can’t be serious!

    • Hampton Sally

      I am serious, and don’t call me Shirley!

  • D. Tracie

    “She seemed like a normal stay-at-home mom,” said Parrinello.
    …i.e., “unemployed”.

  • Dan Te

    Why can’t we all get along and be friends?

    • NYC 2011

      I love that idea. Lets make T-shirts !
      On a serious note, before we can do that, first we need to show our children how.

  • Brian Teague (aka Flesh Monster)

    It’s Shirley. Hello!

  • Reality Check

    hey chang…umm…oyster bay has it’s s#!+ and so does huntington station. yeah north shore has some shanty neighborhoods too. maybe you want to take your head out of your you know what,

  • pugphan

    I would love to hear her side of the tale…smokersodysseycom

  • Surfin Bird

    The video has no right to be used in court. This violates the privacy act

    • Anthony Flynn

      and what Law School did u graduate from?
      of course it can (and will) be used in court.

      • Surfin Bird

        Ms. Melin’s photo is being plastered all over the media and she has not even been convicted of a crime.

        She should sue.

    • Frank D

      What’s a Privacy Act?

    • MikeD

      Please change your name to “Surfin Bird-Brain”

      • nrichard

        i agree – Surfin is stupid! I love people who sound off but have absolutely no idea what they are talking about – Hey SurfinStupid – once you go out in public you are fair game!

  • bday55

    Route 110 is the dividing line between civilization and our prehistoric ancestors. Some would argue the Cross Island Expressway but I say no. Things don’t get back to normal till after Riverhead. Kinda like the Dark Ages out there in Suffolk.

    • Idratherbegolfing

      Yeah you’re right. Valley Stream and Roosevelt; those places are beautiful this time of year.

  • joesmith

    Figures trash like you would say that AND you don’t know how to read either. The 12 year old that this “adult” beat wasn’t in the fight, she was watching and criticized the adult for not breaking it up.
    Do us all a favor and tie your tubes.

    • joesmith

      That was intended for “lovejean”

  • Michelle

    Aaahhh the smell of garbage from Long Island!

    • BJB

      I think you mean Staten island! Jeez!

  • Frank D

    Street justice is not always a bad thing. I guess the kid is supposed to wait to be sufficiently beaten before “officials” send her a letter to stop.

    Pathetic what we’ve become.

  • ken

    Unfortunately, Shirley is not what it used to be. My uncle had property there and i remeber going to his house 45 years ago. Today the YOUTH (what a good boy) has trashed the house and left nothing. It was the next door kids that were arrested along with outhers from the SHIRLEE gang. The court let them go. Burn the entire town and start from scratch. I would say SHIRLEY is worse than Levittown.

  • DanTe

    Which town has more trash: Shirley or Levittown?

  • Kaz

    Damn, wish I could see the rest of this hot mom!

  • KPMc

    With mascara and earrings like that how can she be anything but classy?

    • ken

      Probably hangs out at the White Castles on William Flloyd and Montauk Highway.

      • Angry Bird

        Hey I hang out there…you take that back!

      • Christopher Dixon

        what white castles ?…..drrrr

      • LT

        White Castle is the only fast food chain NOT in that town.

      • IM Right UR WRONG

        Seriously?? Is that all you can say? Wake the hell up and look at the real issue. Instead you are going to judge people by teh way they look. Some people have kids and really should not be raising them… …maybe thats you because you really have nothing legitimate to say. A parent will go out of their way to protect their child and if some dirtball cant raise their kid right and that kid takes it out on her child, then there is nothing wrong with stepping in. I dont care what she does, where she hangs out… …she is a parent that cares. Bullying is a problem. Maybe you ought to take you and your kids to a class on humanity.

  • kyoko

    Ladies and Gentleman, Boys and Girls Fighting time is here! Welcome to Thunderdome! Two bimbos enter one bimbo leaves! Spin the wheel!

    • TC

      LOL

  • lovejean

    I don’t see a problem. This child is a bully and she took care of her. I am a supporter. If every bully gets a mom like her on his/her back, the bullying will stop. Hurray!

    • harold

      did you stop to think that the next time the child could get killed

    • Sam

      @lovejean, you are an idiot. There are better ways of dealing with bullying. File a police report and make sure the school gets a copy if assault and battery are involved. Usually a nice little arrest and being taken to the police station will hopefully cure this bully

    • Lindsay Ward

      Lovejean~ Are you a mother?

    • danny

      As someone who was bullied as a kid, if I told my mom, and she went to do something about it, my next beat down would be worse. Time to clean the windows of your ivory tower.

      • Molly

        word. I feel so sorry for this kid – now she’ll always be known as the kid whose MOM BEAT UP A KID. seriously, this is not going to make her situation better.

    • belladonna

      I agree with you %100. The childs mother reported the bullying to the principle without results. All too often these incidents fall thru the cracks so I believe the mother acted on behalf of her child. If she hadn’t acted, what would’ve been in store for her daughter? Continued bullying leading to a fear of going to school or not wanting to go to school. or getting invlolved with the wrong crowd and becoming a bully herself to avoid being treated badly. The girl got exactly what she deserved, now it’s up to the bullies parents to teach her to cut it out or there will be consequences.

    • Ebby03

      I am a mother of three young girls and am not an advocate of fighting. However, about two years ago, I too was in this mother’s position. Seven teens made my 13yr old daughter their target. I went and spoke to the parents no resolution. I went to building management, no resolution. I went to the police and was told that because they were tweens no action could be taken against them unless my daughter was actually harmed. Finally, one night they all followed her out of our complex and into the street. Two of them began pushing her and she fell into the street where a car missed her by inches. The driver got out of her car and admonished the instigators and helped my daughter up. When I realized what took place I went outside with the intention of seriously injuring several of those girls. I also instructed my daughter to grab the main trouble maker if she ever was jumped and try to pound her head into the ground. I share my story because I want you to uderstand how a usually peaceful parent can be pushed to perhaps not great choices. To the parents of bullies, you never take it serious until a victim goes on a shooting rampage or kills him/herself, or your child is arrested. STEP IN, make your children accountable for what they say and do to others in school, online and in texts.
      Thank you.

      • NYC 2011

        Your case is heartbreaking, no parent should ever have to go through what you did. I feel that parents of bullies should be held responsible for their children’s actions, and your right parents as well as schools need to STEP IN and discipline these children, before other parents are forced to take desperate measures.

    • lenjo

      Amen!!!! Maybe now the schools will do something about it. I am tired of the victim being the loser.

    • amy

      I agree that bulllying should be a zero tolerance but I can’t beliieve that 1010 wins would put up the video to further humiliate these little girls. Take it off!

    • LisaWeb

      I don’t understand why this moron “lovejean” is featured.. pay attention!!!!! The “Mother” is being charged with beating up a girl who wasn’t even IN the fight!! You can hear it on the video, the girl keeps saying “..You’re a mom..” indicating the mother should act like one. The bully is this “lovejean” and people like her b/c the violence comes from illiterate people who have no clue how to understand facts, They just go commit violence. You’re pathetic.

    • fatfree45

      I’m going to have to agree with you!!! Everytime you hear about other kids bullying other kids. All you hear from the schools are ” we can’t do anything about it” or the parents of the child that is bullying the other kid, is just as bad as there child. So you see where the child get’s it from. The one problem with our society is (and this includes the police) the favorite saying is ” we can’t do anything until they do something”.. That saying right there has gotten people killed, beaten up, or put in jail because the person kept getting bullied and picked on so they took matters into their own hands. Or, worse they commited suicide.

  • Gymbomom

    Take care of the bully once and for all.

  • http://linking90.wordpress.com linking90

    She got caught up in the moment thinking she too was 12. Reality bites !

  • Alan

    Shirley. ’nuff said.

    • pb63

      My thoughts exactly, Alan.

    • BJB

      I don’t care if this happened in candy land! Adults don’t fight children! P.S. There is no White Castle in Shirley. It must be nice thinking that you are better than other people. I guess that takes away from your intellect. It shows!

  • Surfin Bird

    The mother is innocent. daughter was bullied.

  • battle

    yeah, long island is new york’s local supply of white trash.

    • Henry Asu

      That’s not a helpful comment, I mean really

    • Reality Check

      i thought that was upstate

      • NYU1232

        No RC, it’s Long Island.

    • Lindsay Ward

      Hey Battle…Are You Serious???? Dont be mad bc u cant afford to live here!!!

      • Mindy

        No one wants to live there…sorry…

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