NEW YORK, N.Y. (CBSNewYork) — A Fort Wayne, Indiana mother’s unconventional form of discipline is sparking a debate. How far is too far when it comes to punishing your child, particularly, in public?
Dynesha Lax says that what she did was a last resort.
“Since you’re looking for attention, we’re going to get you attention,” Lax said.
She was referring to forcing her 14-year-old son to wear a sign around his neck listing his law-breaking behavior — and stand on a street corner for two hours. The sign read: “I lie, I steal, I sell drugs, I don’t follow the law.”
“He broke the law again today and they only gave him a few hours community service. So I decided that we’re going to wear a sign,” Lax said.
The very public punishment was infuriating to some and enlightening to others.
“Boy, that seems awfully harsh,” parent Dean Vidal said.
“I think that’s a little extreme,” Courtney Fishman added.
“Sometimes you have to do something drastic so that he gets the point,” Mary Lou Trattner said.
Mother of three and parenting expert Tammy Gold said there are pros and cons to such extreme forms of discipline.
“At first glance it seems cruel and hurtful and not something that a parent would do. As a clinician I think about it like maybe that’s the only thing that will work with her son,” Gold said.
But sometimes creative punishment crosses the line to criminal.
Last year, a Staten Island mother landed in legal trouble when she dropped her 6-year-old daughter off at a police station as a scare tactic. She was later charged with endangering the welfare of a child.
“Anything that causes harm is crossing the line,” Gold said.
And, Gold said, for that there is no excuse or no wiggle room.
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