Travel + Leisure Magazine Names New York As The Rudest City In America

NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) — The nerve!

Travel + Leisure magazine has determined New York is now the rudest city in America, knocking three-time champion Los Angeles out of the top spot.

Some New Yorkers tell 1010 WINS’ Terry Sheridan we’re just misunderstood.

1010 WINS’ Terry Sheridan reports

“There are great people in New York, we’re just in a rush,” one man said. “New York is an upbeat place… we don’t sleep, you know, 24/7 – go, go, go.”

“We want to get to where we gotta go,” another man said. “It’s not a bad city, I’ve been to other places where they’re ruder.”

T+L asked readers to rank 35 cities for its annual survey in a number of categories including best pizza and most pedestrian-friendly streets.

Judging by the results, there did seem to be a trend: the bigger the city, the bigger the attitude.

People in smaller cities tend to take life a little easier, so it may come as no surprise that New Orleans, Savannah and Charleston were all ranked in the top five cities for friendliness.

Everything moves at a New York minute in the Big Apple, so every once in a while, we may lose our patience with tourists when they stop in the middle of the sidewalk to gawk at the skyscrapers.

Here’s the full list:

    1. New York City
    2. Miami
    3. Washington, D.C.
    4. Los Angeles
    5. Boston
    6. Dallas/ Forth Worth
    7. Atlanta
    8. Phoenix/Scottsdale
    9. Baltimore
    10. Orlando, Fl
    11. Philadelphia
    12. Las Vegas
    13. Anchorage
    14. Chicago
    15. San Francisco
    16. Houston
    17. Seattle
    18. Providence, RI
    19. San Diego
    20. Salt Lake City

Do you think we deserve the title? Which city do you think is the rudest? Let us know below…

  • Batt

    I have lived in NYC my whole life. I recently got beaten up on Halloween with a friend by a gang from Brooklyn!!! While it can be great at times….I can’t even cross the street in the crosswalk when the light is with me. Too worried about getting run over by a car or the numerous bikes racing around our busy town. What does our elitist Mayor have to say???

  • Michael Morelli

    I have found that the tourists are the rude ones. I was walking around Times Square during the Summer. It was the tourists that were bumping into me without saying excuse me. I guess that’s how the tourists think they are supposed to act in NYC.

    • Occupy Times Square

      this. spot on.

    • Chip

      That’s exactly it. Its crap like this that puts tourists and a lot of commuters on edge and makes them think they have to be a holes. Actual New Yorkers are pretty laid back. I felt way more comfortable in NY than in LA. But, even still there’s much worse places.

  • sean p

    i live in staten island and i work in new york at cvs and i see that people are very in pantion. new york is pretty rude. to me its not the greatest city. i hate then new york:s think they are better then everyone else. we are a whole. to me they are putting down other great citys like boston , LA or seattle. new york’s have to learn to slow down.9/11 shouuld haev teached use that.

    • I

      And you should have learned how to spell.

      • Chris

        There you go… Rude.

      • Bobby

        English isn’t everyone’s first language.

    • kerry

      Give me a break! I grew up in Brooklyn, work in manhattan and now live on long island. First we do not think we are better than anyone. I heard of that comment before and I can tell you that is far from the truth. what we are is fast pace and into our own world for the most part. it can seem that we are rude, but we are not we just go go go! and we do not put down other states. we joke about them just as they joke about new yorkers but it is not a put down and boston, L.A are great so are the other places in the U.S.A there is nothing wrong about goofing on each other so relax. and what the hell does 9/11 have to do with this topic? that was pure evil. WE New Yorker’s are a melting pot so our personality is a mix of West coast,East coast, North and south. So what you get is a very interesting city. No matter where you go in the U.S you will find awsome people and find Jerks that is part of life but to judge a whole city because of some jerks is crazy. and to use 9/11 now that is rude and heartless.

  • PPF

    1000% accurate by far NY is the rudest city in America, too much negativity, abusive temperments and unhappy people who have failed in their personal
    and professional lives and use their bitterness and anger against you because
    they failed and you didn’t I would rank ii as the WORST CITY IN THE WORLD
    & I am a New Yorker

    • What a shame

      Also those successful or rich people that feel they have the privilege to be rude and unkind. I can’t stand New York and I’ve been here all my life and travelled. The cities of NY especially NYC, are full of foreigners that pretend they can’t say” Excuxe me”, in any language really gets me. These are the ones that are visiting, snuck in or are here to stay. True NY’ers overcompensate because its a violent place at times so you have to put on your lack of tolerance manner soon as you walk out the door, and be prepared for the fight. Love NY for what it is a MECCA, but people need to get a grip with love, compassion and kindness here read a bible, meditate more. Terrible.

    • I

      You are obviously negative, abusive and unhappy. You just happen to be a New Yorker.

      • Chip

        Agreed with the reply. Plus, PPF is probably just trying to discourage more tourists from coming.

        • murg

          Can it you whiny BLEEP. If you don’t like it, BLEEPING move your BLEEPY-BLEEP to BLEEP-town somewhere. We offer no excuses, we are what we are.

    • kerry

      I think you are speaking about your own miss fortune. sorry sweetie but like i said before you have people like the ones you speak of all over the world. and you know it’s true. I have met horrible people all over even in new york. but I also have met wonderful people in new york and everywhere else. But Hey it’s all about how you want to view city’s, people and life in general.

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  • sam

    New York is DEFINITELY not the rudest city. This is a GIANT misconception by so many people. 1. How do YOU approach New Yorkers? If you approach them and ask them questions in a harsh manner, then you’re going to get the indifferent or cold response. Amazing how many people never think about how THEY are appearing to New Yorkers. If you have an attitude of entitlement, then you’re not going to get a good response.

    One time I got sick and ended up in the wrong place. Everyone stopped to help me and make sure that I got to a safe place. This has happened on more then one occasion. I’ve seen other people getting the same help. Another time, I had trouble with getting my card to work at the metro card machine and a man gave me the money to get a new metro card and get home to sort out the issue.

    • Chip

      NY is the friendliest place if you live there. Everyone has to deal with each other and I think that is the reason they are pretty laid back. Places that are spread out where you don’t have to acknowledge anyone is much worse.

  • Rose

    I definitely have to disagree with NYC being the rudest city. I think all cities have their issues because of being crowded. I’m from NY and the city is definitely not the place to judge NY by. I always went Upstate to go camping and those areas that I frequented were the best! I skimmed over a few of the comments and I noticed that a lot of people put in many other places they felt were worse than NYC…I have my own! For the past year and a half I’ve been in Tampa Florida…I’m trying to get back up north as fast as I can because in my opinion they are the worst! And they’re terrible drivers too!

  • P.

    New Yorkers are not rude, we are just direct and to the point, which people mistake for rudeness. I have been fortunate to live in different places and New York is not the rudest place I have ever been.
    Men get up for pregnant women and the elderly in the transit, Men always let women out of the elevator first, people bump into you, they say excuse me and offer and apology. You can stop anyone on the street and get directions and I could go on…..The “rudeness” people might be talking about comes from people who don’t follow the “common new york rules of etiquette”
    Like don’t stand in the middle of the street to text, talk on the phone or stare at something.
    Have your metrocard ready when you get to the subway or bus, don’t go fumbling for it in your purse/pocket at the turnstile.
    If you walk slower than the average New Yorker, move to the outer lane of pedestrian traffic.
    And for god sakes people, if you don’t know how to pronounce something ask…..its pronounced “How-Ston” not Houston , like the city in Texas

    • NT

      Agreed, good summary.

  • Kat

    I always thought New Yorkers were friendly. I am originally from Boston. They are much worse.

  • Lost In New York

    I just went to New York to consider moving there. I was lost for 3 days. A priest ran me off the property at the church when I just wanted info on where a hotel was. Before leaving a nun gave me the same answer. “We don’t do that here” they both said. I could not find a place to park to use the bathroom or eat or sleep. people could not even tell me how to get to the bridge to get out. Then the police surrounded me and searched me. They ordered me to go back to Missouri. They also did not tell me how to get out. I finally found the way out after 3 stinking days. I never went back. Nor will I.

    • Carlos

      I don’t believe that!!

    • i_luv_jesus

      thank you Jesus

    • Golden

      I think that your bad experience is not about the rudeness of New Yorkers. I really think that you were just not ready to travel in NY or anywhere else. It is not up to people here, to a priest or a nun or anybody else to organize your stay when you travel. Wake up, make some research, make your reservations ahead!!! Get organised yourself and stop blaming people for your lack of preparation!!

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  • Tomas

    I have lived in this country for 15 years and because of my job I have lived in different cities across the USA and I can tell you that the rudest city in America is Atlanta. They are still living the civil war down there, very closed-minded people, extremely segregated city, afraid of strangers, and very racist. I am really surprised that they got to host the olympic games in 96. And by the way, I am a well-educated young professional with a Master degree, white hispanic male living legally in this country working for 500-fortune company (just in case you think I am just talking garbage). NYC is the capital of the world, people come here for a reason: because we are friendly people!!!

    • Michael H.

      I have to disagree. I’m a New Yorker that visits Atlanta annually and that city is full of some of the friendliest people on the planet, no matter your (or their) skin color. Just watch out for the homeless.

  • Justin

    Yes. Thanks you.
    NYC is a crappy place to live with a whole bunch of A$$holes. I hate that I was born in such a crappy place. Everyone just out for themselves.

    Wheres the love NYC oh yeah you don;t have any. It’s just about money here and always will be.

  • Justin

    Yes. Thanks you.
    NYC is a crappy place to live with a whole bunch of A$$holes. I hate that I was born in such a crappy place. Everyone just out for themselves.

    Wheres the love NYC oh yeah you don;t have any. It’s just about money heand always will be.

  • Carlos

    I moved to Philadelphia to be close to my grandson. People here are a bit rude in oerson but the radio station talk show dudes are the rudest!! Philly has an inferiority complex when it comes to NYC. I grew up in Spanish Harlem and Da Bronx then moved to Westchester then Bergen county in NJ. Loved all of them. Philly is going to take some getting used to. Besides, their fashion sense is non existent. Oh, Center City is cool, a lot like NYC but on a much smaller scale. But I love my grandson and daughter and will never move from here as long as they remain here.

    • adios_amigo

      buh bye

  • you

    I agree with this. In all the cities I have been to, New YorkCity has always had the rudest people I have ever encountered. No one has common courtesies, such as holding open a door or saying “thank you”. I try to avoid NYC and rather travel to Boston or Chicago.

    • KevPatrick

      I was born and raised in NYC. I always hold doors open and say please and thank you as do all of the New Yorkers I know.

    • elles

      I lived in NYC for close to thirty years and still visit. I try never to let the door close on someone. I always say please and thank you. So do my kids who live there. Most people do. You can unfortunately find rudeness wherever you go.

  • NT

    Chicago is worst, hated it there. I’ve been in NYC for 5 years and people are much better…one must look at ‘manners’, i.e. ‘please’, ‘thank you’, and ‘excuse me’. When someone bumps into you in NY, 8 times out of ten you get eye contact and and apology. In Chicago, you can open a door for someone and get neither most of the time.

    I’ve also never heard so many Chicago natives boast that Chicago is “the best city in the world”…it’s like they have a NYC insecurity. All places have their +/- and fit certain people better than others, there is no ‘best city’.

    ‘Thank you’ for reading, I appreciate it (how hard was that Chi-town?)

  • Me

    Agree that NYC has it’s share of rude mass transit employees, taxi drivers, and civilian drivers, but I found the customer service to be about standard. I lived in Philly for two years, and if want to see rude cashiers and truly wretched customer service, go there.

    As far as people in a rush. It isn’t just that NYers are in a rush, it’s that they’re in a rush, in an obscenely crowded city, and if you want to get around you have to be a little pushy. I lived and worked in NYC for four years, I know what the commute is like, and how aggravating it can be. I also know how much it can test your patience to try and get around tourists ambling about while you’re running an errand on your lunch break.

    You may be on your vacation, but we live and work here, and we’ve got things to do. Call that the typical NYer attitude, elitist, east coast rude, or whatever you people come up with, but that’s the truth.

    And FYI, I frequently stopped and gave directions to tourists, and often got them from others when I was in an unfamiliar area. Rarely did I find someone unwilling to help me.

    Now I’m in D.C., and I can’t wait until I can move back to NYC.

  • Stefano

    I don’t agree that New York has the rudest people in America. Perhaps if one could determine the actual ratio of rude people to nice people you can determine mathematically that New York City (being the largest US city) would have more rude people in number than other cities.
    I feel that this survey is inappropriate and caters to a popular stereotype.One should take into account that many people living in New York City aren’t New Yorkers, weren’t born or brought up in New York City, many are foreigners [New York City is home to more than 800 spoken languages so perhaps not understanding is interpreted as rudeness With these factors alone it would be callous and ingenuous to make such a general statement accusing an entire city of being rude.
    New York City is a dynamic city that is “ON” 24 hours a day. It’s a city where haste does not make waste. People walk quickly, speak quickly, eat quickly during work hours. There’s no time to smile or to stop and ‘make nice’ between the morning and evening rush hours. Visitors from other cities must keep in mind that New York City is a pedestrian and public transport city. For visitors coming from places where having a car is a way of life, I would like to ask you if you take the time to smile at other drivers while driving? Do you stop to help anyone in distress along the highway; or do you keep driving? When I’m in other US cities where walking is not the norm, I notice that the few people who are actually walking are easily spooked by having another person walking nearby.
    Rest assured that if you need help in New York City you will get help! It may be a bit unnerving for you to make the effort to stop somebody on the street, however please remember that during the day the New Yorker is in “transport mode.” You may need to stop several people before finding a New York City resident or somebody that speaks English, but then just ask them where something is located etc. It won’t be long before you’re surrounded by several people giving you information overload! New Yorkers love their city and they want you to love it as well!
    Most people visiting New York City will judge the city by the midtown experience. Midtown has all the tourist attractions and the population density during daytime hours is unreal. Most New Yorkers that can avoid midtown during the day most definitely do. I would like to see this survey given to visitors experiencing New York’s East & West Villages, SOHO, Upper East & West Sides after work hours. New Yorkers love to unwind and the famous fast pace slows down finally in the evening. Give New York another try and keep in mind that 8,5 million people of all sorts reside in New York. [It is the most densely populated major city in the United States and as aforementioned, as many as 800 languages are spoken in New York, making it the most linguistically diverse city in the world. The New York City Metropolitan Area’s population is the United States’ largest, estimated at 18.9 million people distributed over 6,720 square miles (17,400 km2) and is also part of the most populous combined statistical area in the United States, containing 22.2 million people as of 2009 Census estimates. New York has the largest internet presence of any location in the world; registering 7.1 billion search results as of December 2011.] *google wikipedia

    • nobody

      NY is home to 800 languages? There’s only a little more than 200 countries

      • TommyG

        Considering there are over 6,000 languages currently used in the world today, although many don’t have that many speaking the language. Countries have multiple languages. India, for example, recognizes 18 official languages, but there are more than that in India.

  • Diane Brand

    I lived in New York (Brooklyn) for eight years and loved every minute of it! I also loved Manhattan. The people are rude on the surface, but dig deeper and you’ll find very friendly, genuine, caring souls. I loved living there. The small town (Midwest) I’m living in now is far worse in terms of real rudeness — the people are narrow-minded, bigoted, and gossipy and that’s much harder to take. If you don’t have grandparents buried in the local cemetery, you don’t count. There’s a lot good to be said for New York!

  • Mike

    This article–and New York’s ranking–puzzles me. I work in a bar in the Times Square area and tourists are CONSTANTLY telling me how nice people are, how easy it is to get around the subway, and how easy it is to figure out the streets. Would help to know T&L’s sample size for the survey.

    • NT

      Agreed…parents visit and are surprised as well.

  • John Silva

    New York is rude? Yeah, you should try coming to Elizabeth, NJ. You’ll see rude. I’ve been in and out of NYC for years and have family and friends there. It may look like rudeness to someone who hasn’t been there all that much, but to us who’ve been there lifelong, it’s just how it is. But, I’ve ALWAYS been cordial and nice in NYC and a lot of people I’ve run into have as well. So, if you want to take rudeness for determination and attitude, well….

  • k

    i live in westchester. i went to graduate school in NYC. spent 10 yrs in san francisco and grew up in the south. i’ve lived or worked almost everywhere in the US. And yes, nyc would be 2nd only to westchester county to rudeness. anything in the nyc commuting area is shockingly rude in personal behavior, driving (which they do poorly–i suggest they all go and commute in Los Angeles for six months, then let them drive in the NYC area), even grocery shopping. however, don’t let anyone delude you that this is the place where things get get done–go to california for that. here, a decision that would have been made by 1 person on the fly most other places requires 3 meetings w people not even involved to come to a conclusion. every decision is made by committee, so all this rushing around is trying to get to meetings so a colleague doesn’t feel left out & let them feel important–instead of trusting people with decisions that they pay one $250+K a year to make. it’s old school, old style business which is why the Silicon Valley and san francisco’s housing markets didn’t plummet like NYC and other parts of the country. if i could unload this house for what i owe on it, i wld take the loss and go back west. anyone interested in buying a house in ‘horse country’?

    • A

      k… what are you talking about? the NY metro area’s housing market fared very well in the downturn. Silicon Valley’s unemployment was also higher during most of the recession.

    • TommyG21

      …umm SF has restricted building of new homes causing supply to stagnate, while demand remains high. Many middle and lower class people have had to move out. Keeping supply artificially low has helped with the housing market. Despite NYC’s natural restrictions, building never stops and middle and lower class families can find places-even in Manhattan. As far as the business conditions/decision making goes, that depends on what company you work for in any part of the country.

  • lenape

    New Yorkers like much of the East coast are mostly embellishers and blowhards.

    Friendly but shallow.

    Most are ruled by corporate logos and phony status symbols.

  • Mr. Rupert Davis

    I agree with this survey. I am Manhattan resident, and I must admit that the rudeness of most people in New York City is of Dimensional Proportions. We deserve the tittle. Period!

  • Johnny

    RUde..sometimes. Rudest City No. NYC is made up of people from everywhere. So the person pushing past a trorist may be from thier home state. Someone should let visitor understand that teh moving stair case will continue to move when they step off. Please move away from the top of teh esculator. Ask them if they woudl stop thier car on a busy highway to ask another car for direction…No then please move to a side when stoppingand getting your bearings. That also means don’t walk four accross and holding hands on busy sidewalks. Fall in two by two and take up less space so others can move around you.
    Maybe these baisc concepts are not required in a small town or city, but sure has heck if I smoke or curse in their tiny town they will let me know thats not the way they do things there, yet we can not do the same in a massive multiple cultured city. Don’t read stupid surveys.

  • Joe Molitor

    REDICULOUS!… RUDE!!! We New Yorkers are ALWAYS friendly and helpful to those visiting our town. And those who don’t like the way swe give warm, assistance, can go #@@5 themselves, cause we ARE friendly, damn it!

  • Rodney Benton

    I was born and raised in New York and social interaction has gotten much coarser over the last few years. Drivers honk at red lights, people block entrances and exits, they shout gratuitous insults, bicyclists run you over going against the traffic or through red lights and the police are armed to the the teeth, drugs permeate the the populace and the productive society of the last century has been replaced by a non productive entitlement society with a huge percentage of adults and children on some form of welfare. There is no light at the end of this tunnel!

  • Michele

    NYC is not only rude, but dirty,and nasty as well as the ppl. Everyone wants to boast about NYC this and that……it’s overcrowded 2 many ppl and 2 many buildings…..its in the outer court…that’s says alot….and b/c of all the major media,theaters and movies made their NY is boasted as being so great…….it’s a lie….YES have been there don’t care to return and the food is lousy,the restaurants are rat infested…..who would want to eat there but the ppl that live there…No offense intented, but stating the facts…just sayn

  • susan

    i worked for an airline for many years and i can tell you i have been to many of these cites at least once, as well as dealing with people from all parts of the u.s. in the course of my job..peoples rudeness is measured by the way they treat others, and there is a noticeable difference..its not where you live, its how you are as a person…nasty, self centered people dont smile, treat others with discourtesy and are too busy to talk..nicer, more reserved and courteous people at least have a hello, or a smile for you,and will make eye contact..i have a neice who works in ghe hospitality business in new york city (manhatten) and she has said new yorkers she has come in contact with were quite rude and demanding..its not the size of the community, its the person you think you should be to “fit in” and new yorkers obviously feel they must be cold…

  • Heather

    New Yorkers, on the whole, are not rude. We are simply focused on getting to our destinations and are good at tuning out all the variables that surround us daily. (I once watched a sweet friend visiting from rural Pennsylvania have a panic attack while walking down Canal street. Our ability to tune-out is a survival skill. It doesn’t mean we are blowing you off.)

    Stop one of us on the street and ask for help/directions, etc. and watch what happens. You’ll get guidance, advice…whatever you need. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve removed my headphones when someone approached me or tapped me on the shoulder and guided that person to their desired location. Or helped elderly folks/moms carry groceries/carriages up subway steps. I also see many, many others do the same on a weekly, if not daily, basis.

    I don’t know what source(s) Travel & Leisure magazine based this list on, but it’s dead wrong. People are constantly lending each other a hand in this city. Help may not always include a charming vocal twang, sweet smile or a pat on the back, but it happens nonetheless.

    New Yorkers are most definitely misunderstood.

    Oh well, whaddyagonnado!?

  • Matt

    Saying we’re just in a “hurry and always go go go” is just a lame cop out. Just because one is in a hurry does not give them the excuse for not being polite.
    It seems to me that by calling it a “New York attitude” they think it gives them the right for acting however they please, regardless of their fellow New Yorkers thoughts of feelings. I blame bad parenting and lack of respect for others. Understandably, New York has the largest population therefor there are more rude people, but still we could all change our attitude if we really wanted to.

  • SJ on UWS

    Since I was born, I’ve lived in San Francisco and Los Angeles, CA – Nashville, TN – Washington, DC – Denver, CO, as well as London, England and South Africa. Now, in my late 30s, I’ve been in NYC for the last six years. I’ll never leave., I know. I never want to live anywhere else, because the energy here is amazing – I adore it. But it IS THE RUDEST CITY I’ve ever set foot in. Some people are nice if you’re nice to them, but from traffic cops to taxi drivers, cashiers in almost every store around to even hairdressers, dry cleaners, etc., 90% of the people I’m in contact with are “smile-less” and act as if they’re bothered to even be alive. It’s sad actually. I’m positive and happy and I’ve never let NYC change me, but it’s a struggle every day. I smile at everyone who makes eye contact. Probably one out of ten people smile back, IF that. Most almost snarl back, flat out mean. Trust me, THOSE are the people that have lived here their entire lives. The native NYers are the absolute worst. They trust no one, assume everyone is constantly out to get them or screw them over. It’s ridiculous. If the native NYers would lighten up, then we wouldn’t even be in the top ten on this list. Sorry, NYC deserves the #1 spot, due to the lifelong residents, NOT the transplants. Oh, and LA and DC are 10X better than NYC – I’ve lived in both cities.

    • Joe Molitor

      Wunnerfull – do consider going back there..
      Those that can’t make it in NYC, we ship to LA, or to DC to get … murdered.

      • SJ on UWS

        I’ll never leave NYC. I already stated that in my original comment. Doesn’t mean the people are good people though. I only hope more peope continue to move here from other places and stay…just like I will. Maybe if we raise children here like ourselves, the next generation will be a bit less rude. Hopefully. Every time a NYer is rude, I just think how much their life must really suck and feel sorry for them. Anger is a waste of time and energy. My life is awesome and I’m in the best city in the world. I only wish the nasty, rude, native NYers would see it the same way…and appreciate the wonderful place where they live. Nope, I’ll never leave.

        But I’m all for shipping all the rude neighbors to DC, Atlanta, LA… wherever. NY would be a helluva happier place!

  • Pig

    We probably blew that 2nd place away by far. Of course we deserve it.

  • Martin

    Taxi drivers…

  • techfuser

    NYC is where things get done efficiently,effectively,and economically. If that would mean someone had to be assertive, then be it. At the end of the day, we love each other – no hard feelings.

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  • TJ Miani

    i live in new jersey all my life. It isnt that new yorkers are rude, they are actually very nice. The thing is they are extremely testy and uptight.

  • R

    I was born and raised here and I have never seen such bad customer service, rude sales help and nastier people any place else. Every single place I go to visit I find people 100% more pleasant and have better manners. I have lived here all my life and I can’t believe the changes in attitudes here. It’s horrible. I miss the old NYC. This is definitely the rudest place in the U.S.!!!

    • Devin Edwards

      pleasantries are the veiled face of a condescending and judgmental reality. look beyond it and find meaning in life beyond feeling warm and cozy

    • Devin Edwards

      pleasantries are the veiled face of a condescending and judgmental reality. look beyond it and find meaning in life behind feeling warm and cozy

  • Devin Edwards

    i believe this is a bias and unintelligent generalization. the larger the city the more demands, and higher level of responsibility. small town folks can be quaint and easy going because there lives aren’t dictated by inflated living standards; food and amenities prices, rent, and over burdened education systems. The immense diversity in larger cities gives people a better understand and level of interaction with international communities that rural and suburban areas don’t receive; allowing for underlying racism, religious dogmatism and “easy goings”. scratch the surface in a conversation about civil and ethical rights and i’m sure these bogus claims would come crashing down like a stack of war propagandist playing cards.

    • Amused but not misled

      Cue the music to the Andy Griffin Show and let’s all go down to the holler and watch OPpie throw a rock in the fishin hole.

      That is so typical New York elistist condescension.

      Wer don’t call it rudee. We flatter ourselves and call it “attitude.”

    • Heather

      TOTALLY agree with you, Devin.

  • Jacqueline Lewis

    I think that the south is much ruder than the north. I’m front New York, and now live in the south, and the south is much worse.

    • Joe Jacovino

      they are rude to you probably cuz you are a “Yankee”

  • Typical Attitude

    People like me are the nice and friendly ones. It’s everyone else in the world who are rude, wierd, and bad drivers.

    • myke

      I been saying this for years ! we are the rudest we have places to go and no patience for slow people walking and looking its what makes new york , New york fast pace always having somewhere or something to do

  • BRD

    New yorkers are friendly, but not nice. If you fall down on the street, someone will come over, dust you off and send you on your way, probably with some advice like watch where your walking. I’ve seen people fall and get trampled in DC.

    • weston

      yes! I actually took a tumble coming up the stairs (yes, I know, sometimes it’s harder to walk up stairs than down), although I saved my coffee from spilling, 4 or 5 peeps immediately came to me offering help and asking if I was OK. Being the true NY’er I am, I couldn’t do anything but laugh (at myself), and yell, ‘and he crosses the line for a touchdown!’, 2 people helped me get up =)

  • russ

    New York City is a great place,

  • Lola

    Chicago is by far the rudest and most arrogant city in America.

    • NT

      Agreed…arrogance especially. No ‘manners’ in Chicago, which may be different from ‘rudeness’. No ‘please’, ‘thank you’, or ‘excuse me’.

  • A "Going Postal" Worker

    I am not sure how fair this is.
    Of course, every city has its jerks and idiots (and NY is no exception).

    However, biased as I might be, I think that home-grown New Yorkers are good people. It’s often folks who move here from out of town – clueless people from “small town USA” that watch too much Sex and the City, GOSSIP GIRL, and other “worthless garbage” on television . . . .then they move here and think that that’s how they’re supposed to act in order to fit in.

    • hbo

      i found it the othe way around

  • Fuc Yusef

    NYC public employees (Traffic Cops; court officers; cashiers) and Taxi/commercial drivers are the best examples of rudeness.

  • mj

    i don’t think nyers are rude at all…. obviously these people have NEVER been to northern new jersey

  • Amused but not misled

    NY’er Basic Rule #1- Do not make eye contact on subway. What’s that tell you?

    We do aggressive walking because people are too slow ( me included) clipping or bumping them on purpose.

    You get hit by aggressive byclists stepping off a curb without looking .

    The list goes on and on. It’s the NY (survival v rage) pychosis.

    • Crystal Helbig


    • hbo

      I guess u just never been to Tokyo, Hong Kong. new yorker walk much slower than any other people in Asia big cities.

    • James Brace

      The difference, in my opinion, is the amount of people. When a person comes from a less crowded place to a very crowded place their awareness of personal space is dissimilar to those who are native. The consequence for both parties is negotiating those differences. Unfortunately, as a New Yorker, having to negotiate those differences with every person where these differences come into contact on the sidewalk, in the subway, at the market, etc, is exhausting. There just isn’t enough energy to do that in the way people may need to feel valued. Personally, it drives me crazy to have to communicate to a group of five people walking down a crowded sidewalk that their are not the only people on it!

    • what a shame

      no IT’S RUDE, I’ve seen people knock over kids, the elderly, pregnant women without a word. I hate people that do this, Weren’t you raised right say “Excuse me”. What’s wrong with you. You’re going to clip the wrong mental person one day. It’s best to be mannerly who cares what the majority does. I am the wrong NY’er to clip, I will grab you and call you on that crap you will be saying “Excuse me” , believe me and GOD forbid you clip my child.. Nothing is so important not even yourself to justify this kind of thinking. This is why NY is so violent. Entitled to be Rude vs. The Intolerant Ones = many altercations.

    • Chris

      New Yorkers are in a fast paced business environment especially in mid town Manhattan. Being someone who works in mid town, I have seen the record number of tourists this year spread themselves out across sidewalks like a fence and then walk so slowly theres no way to get by them. Wherever you are from there is a naturally occurring phenomena called common sense. As there are cars in the street and I noticed they get out of their way, you can see that there are people with purpose that need to get somewhere. So I think this poll should reconsider who’s who’s rude in our city. Perhaps there should be a handbook that explains basic common sense to those who don’t pick up on things quickly. As far as not making contact on the subway, we are a congested society and that is a polite way of giving your fellow straphanger a little privacy as well as prevent anyone who wants something a chance to intervene your privacy. Getting hit by cyclists… DON’T walk into traffic without looking. That’s ridiculous! I am a native to Manhattan and have also seen New Yorkers stop and go out of their way to help others from out of town and locals. Their is amazing culture, beautiful scenery, and sincerely happy people here. Not to mention we should consider the service industry to be highly (restaurants, Broadway, tourism) ranked in the world.

    • Just an average new yorker

      Wow I love how tourists would come to New York with the conception that everyone here is rude and aggressive.

      I guarantee you if go to many Southern states like Atlanta, if you’re not white, you’re in for it.

      Anyways back to my point.

      The tourists have to realize that they have a self-serving bias when it comes to approaching New Yorkers. Yes, they might be in a rush and frustrated but if you approach them expecting rudeness, that is what you’re going to receive. The tourist might not realize it but if they are being passive-aggressive, they will risk sending mixed signals to the average New Yorker.

      Besides the point, New York has a large population condensed in a small area, so there are bound to be tremendous assholes every now and then. I’m not going to sugar coat it and say New Yorkers are the kindest and sweetest people in the world, as many other replies have mentioned but it is unfair to generalize the whole population of the city based on a couple of incidents.

      On that note, pain is often more memorable than pleasure so the next time you snarf at New Yorkers as being rude because of one incident here and there, try to remember all the people who get up on the subway for the elderly, pregnant women and those who are disabled. Those people who will wait for you at the end of the hallway whist holding a door just so you won’t have to battle the air compressor locking mechanism on the door. The thank yous that strangers will give you for holding a door for them and many more.

      Thanks for reading :)

  • Mikeybklyn

    GO F URSELF lol

  • abner

    Many New Yorkers grew up in tenements; it makes them cautious with strangers, not rude.
    Small town people can be very nice, but this is also defensive. If rude there, the memory will linger in the town for a long time

    • Amused but not misled

      Speaking of tenements- I don’t see Newark or Detroit on that list.

      Excuse #2 is….?

      • Jay Jay

        this is a list of travel sites….I don’t think anyone travels two thousand miles to visit Newark. Nor does anyone go to Detroit for a vacation….

  • DD

    I came form the south and I must say that I have found people up here more pleasant and more willing to help than where I grew up for 30 years!

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