NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) – Mother’s Day is supposed to be relaxing. But the celebration can turn stressful when you throw in the kids and relatives.

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Elyse Segall is hosting a barbecue on Mother’s Day and told CBS 2’s Cindy Hsu she is going to have a full house.

She is also having a baby the next day. She told Hsu her Mother’s Day will be “hectic, crazy, chaos, mayhem.”

A lot of mothers spend Mother’s Day running after the kids, or taking care of other special moms in their lives — from in-laws to their own mothers.

Parenting expert Tammy Gold said if you’re hosting at your house, moms need to ask for help.

“Enlist the dads to help all day– don’t lift a finger,” Gold said. “I know it’s foreign and alien to so many moms, but don’t pick up anything, don’t prepare the food. If the dads won’t help, find a babysitter, find a helper.”

And delegate every job, especially the clean-up.

“A lot of dads say and families say ‘I want to do whatever she wants but she doesn’t tell me,'” Gold said. “So number one thing is moms have to not feel guilty for voicing their wants.”

So speak-up and write down what you’d like. You may want brunch or a massage — a few hours of reading in bed, even a nap.

Nava Miller is a pediatrician and a mother of five who knows what’s in store for her mother’s day. “I get five fabulous minutes of card opening and projects and then the rest of the day is what we do everyday of the year.”

And that’s the way she likes it, said Hsu.

If you start feeling guilty on Mother’s Day for doing what you really want to do, just remember it’s one day — you have the rest of year to take care of everyone else.

What are your plans for Mother’s Day? Let us know below.

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