When the accident first happened, Wynonna was in shock and struggled to cope. She even sat on her bus for five long days in silence.
“In that silence I was like, ‘OK, God, I don’t know why, but I know who. You are still in control. What does this mean?’” revealed Wynonna to The Boot.
It’s been three months now and Wynonna now realizes what she has gained from this experience.
“He was a maverick and then, the next thing I know, he’s like a newborn, in that every two hours it was like, ‘What can I do for you?’” “He taught me — and I can’t believe I’m saying this — to be selfless. I’m so in a world that is selfish in terms of it’s always about me — Wynonna Inc., Wy’s next gig, Wy’s on tour, it’s all about Wy. All of a sudden I have my hair in a ponytail and I’m a wife. I didn’t get applause, a standing ovation or an award. I was doing my duty as a wife. It was very strange at first, I have to admit. The rhinestones had to be hung up and I had to put on good stretchy clothing that was washable. It was very weird but it has taught me a lesson I needed to learn.”
Wynonna has changed for the better, achieving a deeper understanding of what it means to be a partner in a loving relationship—being with her husband, caring for her husband and helping him recover. His needs came before her own.
Wynonna wasn’t the only one helping Cactus, either. Fans from all around the US sent the couple heartfelt letters that brought them to tears.
“The very first moments that I was in the hospital, there were messages coming in from fans,” said Cactus. “They were not these cordial, nice things, but very heartfelt, directly speaking to my heart. I spent many a teary moment reading them to Wy. I couldn’t believe the true heart that people were sharing with me…stories of healing and other amputees…it was kind of overpowering, that outpouring of love.”
Wynonna added the messages and letters have continued to come. “There were thousands of messages. We were not prepared, as you never are, for something so powerful. It’s unbelievable what you go through, and you need the support of people. We are still getting messages, and we are keeping everything in a big file because we want to address it as much as we can at some point.”
The letters and support must have worked. Cactus was told he would need rehabilitation for three to four weeks, but he checked out of rehab in only eight days.
The couple has since been back in the studio. And they plan to resume touring later this month. “I’ll be back playing drums beginning Nov. 26,” Cactus said, “when Wy starts her Christmas tour.”
- Ashley Quadros, CBS Local/Sacramento