NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) – It goes without saying that parents want the best for their children.
But sometimes what we think is a good parenting approach for a child isn’t the best way to go.
Loni Coombs, former prosecutor and author of “You’re Perfect…And Other Lies Parents Tell,” hit The Couch to share tips about raising kids for the real world.
“In the late 8os early 90s there was a drastic shift in parenting styles where we decided we wanted to give our kids everything we didn’t have,” Coombs said. “We really centered our whole world around our kids. And now they’ve grown up and they believe the whole world should center around them.”
This style of parenting, however, can prevent children from developing self-control and anger management.
“We made this self-entitled generation, these kids who expect everything to be given to them, and by doing that, we took away their skill to have self-control.”
So how do you avoid raising the next Lindsay Lohan?
Instead of making everything perfect for them, let them deal with frustration. Let children fail, so they can learn to work for something
“Then when they become an adult and go out into the real world, they can handle the real world,” Coombs said.