NEW YORK (WLNY) – Finding that special someone isn’t easy — especially in big cities like New York.

But according to matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson, there are steps you can take to find love.

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“30 days is what it takes to create a routine, therefore a habit,” the matchmaker said.

The first step: Eliminate what’s not working.

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“There’s a lot of negativity out there,” he said. “Take all of that out of your life. Get inspired. Be around people who inspire you, be around things that inspire you – read a great book.”

Other tips include: Seeking out a love mentor, repeating a daily mantra and striking a confidence pose each day. For more on the 30-day love diet, check out the full interview below.