NEW YORK (WLNY) — Social media is increasingly influencing our love lives.
Now there’s new researchers that says sites like The Facebook could be sabotaging our romantic relationships.
Andrea Syrtash, relationship expert and co-author of It’s Okay To Sleep With Him On The First Date And Every Other Rule Of Dating Debunked, stopped by The Couch to weigh in on the effect of the Internet in the world of dating.
Syrtash said you can’t place the blame solely on social media if your partner is being sketchy — the issue isn’t so much his Facebook use, but rather his intentions.
“I think if you think your partner is cheating, you will go to his email, is social networks, and you will find evidence,” Syrtash said. “But couples that have trust probably won’t find much if they open their partner’s account. It’s really based on your gut feeling.”
The key is so draw a line when it comes to the amount of time spent on social networks.
“I don’t think we can blame The Facebook for our relationships being ruined, but 1 in 5 people in a recent survey did blame the network,” Syrtash said. “It’s all about boundaries. You can use the network, but if you don’t have boundaries, then it will interfere with your love life.”
Instead, find ways to use social media to strengthen your relationship.
“You don’t need to publicly display your love on these networks,” Syrtash said. “But there is a way to use technology to flirt with your partner.”
Also important is watching your own behavior.
“You have to think about ‘how discreet am I being?’ When my partner walks into the room, do I quickly power of my computer? It’s really based on your actions.”