NEW YORK (CBSNewYork) — Ellen Sarver Dolgen is an author who writes about and hosts menopause parties, events to recognize a milestone that used to be considered the beginning of old age.

“It’s not about being old,” Dolgen said. “It breaks a taboo and it opens up a conversation.”

She brings together women in their early 30s to their late 50s to talk about the common bond of growing older.

Dolgen insists it’s not about age, but aging gracefully.

“You know who’s in their 40s? Jennifer Aniston, Demi Morre, Sandra Bullock, that is not old,” she said.

“We need to have an age revolution,” said Lisa Traina.

Many have never talked about menopause with anyone. “I’ve never spoken to my mother about menopause,” said Andrea Pizziconi.

It’s more than a party. Women share a glass of wine and pass a bowl of menopause related questions. These address problems and concerns and get women talking.

Sample questions include: “have you ever had your hormone levels checked?” and “do you pretend you’re fine when really you’re a complete mess?”

The discussions are frank and informative.

“I was sweating and not sleeping,” one woman said.

Doctors agree this is a positive way for women to get and share information.

“When we get to that point where aging becomes something that is beautiful, where we celebrate the wisdom of older women, it’s going to to be a lot easier to talk about without guilt or shame,” said Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, Ob-Gyn at Columbia-Presbyterian.

“Frankly a women’s in peri menopause, menopause and post menopause over half of her life. So I suffered, and I dont want anyone else to suffer. It isn’t complicated,” Dolgen said.

What do you think of menopause parties? Sound off in our comments section below…

Comments (6)
  1. These women are embracing menopause & supporting each other through it. Way to go gals!

  2. stacy says:

    Wonderful idea to finally come out of the closet and embrace all the stages of being a woman. But be sure your solution is natural and not the chemicals that give us breast cancer PLEASE. Natural progesterone is awesome and works!

  3. Andrea (Holy Hormones) says:

    I think it’s a great idea. I am lucky enough to have a doctor who “gets it” and believes that BIOIDENTICAL hormone balance is preferable to a handful of toxic medications, and I am all about educating women that there are other options for dealing with menopause other than suffering or taking synthetic hormones like Premarin or Prempro. If anyonw would like a list of resources to help you find a doctor/compounding pharmacy in your area who deal with bioidentical hormones, and a list of recommended reading (I prefer to recommend books written by doctors and health care professionals than celebrities) please drop me an mail at and I will get the list right out to you. Best wishes to all for hormonal health.

  4. Leila Mae says:

    Sounds like a fun party! Whatever helps women get out there and helps! If you need any help with education for women, I started a website for women loans and scholarships!

  5. Big Nards says:

    Get over it. You got old and you will be traded in for a new model. Get over it. Everybody get old.

  6. Nick says:

    Isn’t it called the First Wives Club? Where the old hags congregate as they’re dumped for newer model toys?

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