Tyler Clementi's Family Says Jury Got It Right

WHIPPANY, N.J. (CBSNewYork/AP) — The man who had intimate encounters with Rutgers student Tyler Clementi wants the former student convicted in the webcam spying case to go to prison.

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The man, known only as M.B., will draft an impact statement that his lawyer plans to read when Dharun Ravi is sentenced on May 21.

His lawyer, Richard Pompelio, tells The Record newspaper his client believes Ravi deserves to be sentenced to jail because that’s what the law provides.

Ravi was found guilty of invasion of privacy and bias intimidation as a hate crime for using a webcam in September 2010 to spy on Clementi and M.B. having an intimate encounter and faces up to 10 years behind bars.

Pompelio says his 32-year-old client doesn’t hold any malice toward Ravi. But the lawyer believes his client has learned there was a degree of “meanness” in what happened.

Clementi’s family, meanwhile, issued a statement Friday saying they believe the jury “reached the correct verdict” and that “the defense’s explanation of what happened was simply not believable.”

“I have said all along that we were looking for justice and accountability,” Clementi’s father, Joseph Clementi said in the statement. “I trusted the courts and the State of New Jersey to get this right…and they did.”

In a newspaper interview earlier this week, Ravi said that he “didn’t act out of hate” and “wasn’t uncomfortable with Tyler being gay.”

He explained he was just leery of a stranger in his dorm room, saying “I thought it was something sinister, that maybe he got mixed up with the wrong guy.”

The Clementis say there are lessons to be learned from the death of their son. “We have become all too aware of the consequences suffered by people who are singles out for being different,” said Clementi’s mother, Jane Clementi in the statement. “In this digital world, we need to teach our youngsters that their actions have consequences, that their words have real power to hurt or to help. They must be encouraged to choose to build people up and not tear them down.”

The Tyler Clementi Foundation was launched earlier this year to promote responsible use of electronic media. For more information, visit www.thetylerclementifoundation.com.

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Comments (28)
  1. redstart says:

    Rich Pompelio representing MB is shameful. He may as well have represented Stephen Simmons in Eddie Werner’s murder case. Shame on you, Mr. Pompelio. You represent the worst in victim’s rights.

  2. Robert Christiansen says:

    If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

    Leviticus 20:13

    The Bible says it all! The Lord took Clementi for his abomination, but I don’t know why he did not take M.B. too. The Lord works in mysterious ways. If we let this “gay rights” stuff continue, the modern version of Sodom and Gomorrah is surely not far away. Maybe the grand plan is to have Ravi deported so he will be far away from New Jersey when the fire and brimstone rains down on New Jersey.

    1. dakotahgeo says:

      LOLOL… in a time long ago in a land far away, there used to be a childrens’ program called the ‘Rocky and Bullwinkle Show. Therein was a segment called ‘Fractured Fairytales.’ While the Bible is a history book, poetry, allegory, et al, it is NOT a weapon of mass destruction … WMD… as some Bible Thumpers would have us believe! Please save your Bible quoting for YOUR own personal use in your own setting… home and church… and we will not pity you nor look down at you! Until then, what comes around goes around, Doofus! Gay rights are going to be here a long time after you’re gone, Robert, and it will be the law of th land inevitaby… and much to your chagrin, the world will be just fine… hardly a piece of burned toast, as you seem to desire. Best wishes and blessings!
      Dakotahgeo, M.Div. Pastor/Chaplain


    They are proud his son had relations with M.B. I am sure of it.

    1. dakotahgeo says:

      I can second that remark!!! How rude and arrogant you are if you are being sarcastic! Any normal parent would be proud of their gay son or daughter!

      1. Very conservative says:

        YUCK. SHM

  4. RKaten says:

    I believe M.B. needs to take some personal responsibility in this case for agreeing to meet T.C. in his dorm room. At the very least M.B. once having
    gone to the Rutger’s dormitory to meet T.C. he should have manned up and offered to take him to a hotel so he wouldnt be outed and find it necessary to
    take his own life. T.C. was a very disturbed young boy.He told people that his sexuality was denied by his parents.He invites a stranger twice his age over to
    his dorm and he doesnt think anyone including his roomate would draw the conclusion that he was involved in some sexual tryst. Ravi didnt have to spy on him or call attention to it in the manner that he did but before someone is found
    guilty of a hate crime, uttering the word gay and calling attention to a 32 year old visitor to a freshman college dorm, one would hope that the judge who heard this case would take control of this decision and reduce it to what the
    prosecutors offered Ravi as a plea bargain. God only knows who is more stupid in this case Ravi or his father who hired his attorney who was incoherent
    during much of the trial and alienated most of the jurors in the process of questioning witnessses. Besides that once the bell was rung about how the jury
    was not supposed to consider the fact the T.C. commited suicide, how could they not let that affect their deliberations even subconciously without it being
    talked about. It was in their brains and not one of the jurors was willing to be the
    conscience of the rest of the jurors who were looking to criminalize the foolish
    behavior of a socially awkward 18 year old college freshman who made some
    very immature decisions when confronted by a situation of a 32 year old stranger occupying his room until 1 am in the morning with his 18 year old
    naive angry roomate. This is a tragedy that could have been avoided if M.B.
    had as much brain matter as he had lust for a young inexperienced boy who
    only recently announced his preferred sexuality.

  5. J.W says:

    This kid’s life is ruined and Clementi took the easy way out of dealing with a tough internal situation. “Should he go to jail for being childish?” no. “Should he be have been expelled from school?”, that’s the schools choice Deported….not necessary. One act of immaturity did not directly result in someone dying. He didn’t stab his roommate for being gay, his roommate committed SUICIDE. I don’t understand how people can be so rash in their decisions to crucify a kid for something that happens everywhere. Do you really think this is the first time a roommate has recorded someone in his room having sexual relations? This happens at all colleges. This story is only relevant because Clementi was gay and jumped off a bridge. As for M.B, he really has no say in this case at all. He isn’t a member of either family. He is a bystander to the situation who wants his thoughts heard but is afraid to reveal who he is. He wants to stand up for a fellow homosexual who killed themselves for not being comfortable in their own skin, and he does so by hiding his identity because he too is afraid of publicly labeling himself as Gay. “Gay and Proud” does not apply here. Let Ravi off with an appropriate punishment of community service, required counseling, and a fine. The label alone will be enough punishment for the rest of his life.

    1. Tom says:

      I agree with you 100%. While what he did was wrong, it’s not like he physically hurt Clementi let alone murder him. Clementi’s parent’s bare responsibility as well as clearly they did not support their son enough. If Ravi faces up to 10 years+ deportation, then Casey Anthony deserves at least 25 years for the death of her child

  6. John says:

    Hope he meets Bubba in jail, then he’ll know what being gay is all about!

  7. CT Native says:

    Let him rot in jail!

  8. idunnowrong says:

    The more Ravi opens his mouth, the dumber he sounds

  9. AOliver says:

    Gay times we live in, shame on us

    1. max says:

      Get with teh 21st centruy you bigotted A hole

  10. None Of Your Business says:

    Definitely put Ravi in jail–for the rest of his life. So he was really concerned that Tyler was getting mixed up with the wrong type of guy? Hmmmmmmmm.

    And, if Ravi was really so leery of a stranger in his dorm room, why didn’t he voice that to Tyler–instead of going to another room and watching the action via his webcam?

    1. dakotahgeo says:

      The ony “wrong guy” in this whole scenario is Ravi! The boy doesn’t deserve an American education or an American life. DEPORT IMMEDIATEY!!!

  11. Joe says:

    Here we go again. Enough with this story.

    1. dakotahgeo says:

      Don’t like it?? Don’t read it!! There IS a “Delete” key on your computer, right?

      1. Joe says:

        Well, when it is constantly being shoved down our throats by the liberal, greedy, and somewhat phony media, pretty annoying to have to keep hitting that “Delete” key.

        1. dakotahgeo says:

          That’s what it’s for, Bud… use and quit complaining… or quit commenting, lolol. (C’mon, you’re intelligent… you understand this simple procedure, right??)

            1. dakotahgeo says:

              And??? Your point is??? Stick to the storyline IF that’s possible for you!

            2. dakotahgeo says:



              Yeah, I’ll buy that!

  12. Evelyn says:

    Why he didn’t kill anybody and if you wanted to be with him why did you didn’t take him to an hotel he should not go to jail .

    1. dakotahgeo says:

      I agree… Deport his ass immediately!!!

    2. boogienights says:

      Exactly. They should have gone to a hotel or to MB’s house/apartment. Is MB hiding because he is married? I wonder.

  13. Steven Foellmi says:

    then deport his ass away!!! his family too!!!

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