N.Y. Domestic Violence Registry Proposal Met With Big Concerns

Plan Said To Be Well-Intentioned, But Could Impact Fed Funding

MINEOLA, N.Y. (CBSNewYork) — It’s a controversial idea from some local lawmakers — registering domestic violence offenders, just like those convicted of sex crimes, on a state-wide database.

Their names, addresses and photos would be made public.

But would that put victims in greater danger?

“My ex-husband, he would go into rage. He put a knife to my throat. He spit on me, choked me, many times in front of my daughter,” one victim told CBS 2’s Jennifer McLogan on Monday.

Police said they arrested that woman’s partner for domestic violence and weapons possession.

But she said while he was out on bail his goal was to continue dating.

“Currently my ex-husband is online, on every single dating site. Women are looking at his profile,” the woman said.

As easily as one finds an online date, there could be a way to find out if that prospective mate has a violent history. Three New York State lawmakers now want to create an online registry of domestic violence offenders – an idea originally proposed by Suffolk County legislator Duwayne Gregory.

“They’ll be ‘outed,’ and the community and the world will know this is the kind of thing they do behind closed doors,” said Gregory, a Democrat representing Amityville.

Gregory compared it to the sex offender registry. The database would include the name, address, and mug shot of the abuser. The goal, he said, is to save lives and keep victims out of danger.

Wendy Linsalata of the Suffolk County Coalition Against Domestic Violence said the idea is will intentioned, but has a host of potential problems.

“It’s absolutely well intended. I think we can hold them accountable, though, without listing them on a registry and compromising the entire family,” Linsalata said.

Revealing victims’ identities is in violation of confidentiality laws and could trigger the loss of U.S. dollars.

“That locale could lose all the federal funding and we can’t provide services without it,” said the Coalition’s Jo Anne Sanders.

Some experts said though they like the shame factor of the legislation, they worry it would cause more pain and suffering for the victims.

The debate over a state domestic violence registry is just beginning in Albany.

Do you think this is a good idea? Please offer your thoughts in the comments section below.

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  • Paul Elam

    Sorry, Toni, that should have read “heart” all aglow. I vas so excited by your thinking zat I lost control! seig heil

  • Paul Elam

    ‘Maybe we can or should tattoo the word COWARD or just the letters DA on their faces after they spend a night in prison for hitting a woman.”

    @ Toni

    I totally agree with you. TOTALLY. In fact, I think all men should be forced to wear Yellow Stars of David on their clothing in keeping with your ideas.

    After all, we know that if a man is not hitting a woman now, he probably will in the future. We need to mark them all now, and we can get together later to figure out a FINAL SOLUTION.

    That idea just makes your hear go all aglow, doesn’t it?

  • Suzan

    I ABSOLUTELY FEEL THIS NEEDS TO BE PUT INTO PLACE ASAP! The majority of these men are repeat offenders and sociopaths. Women enter into these relationships unsuspecting. I would have liked the opportunity to have a background on the man I was with, perhaps it would have saved me from the violence that came later.

    • Izzey

      This is the second time you are promoting your blog.
      If you want a background check on someone, you can pay for that.

      You want to advocate for a list for domestic violence offenders? You have to advocate for ALL victims of domestic violence….not just the pitiful YOU. I was in an abusive relationship. I got out…and moved on with my life. I still advocate for men’s rights. You all scream for equality; but practice entitlement, and inequality. It is not just about YOU.

      Men are not even acknowledged in this issue. It is assumed that all women are sweethearts, and men are the big bad wolves.

      If they publish such a list, are you going to read it like a phone book, every time you go out on a date?

      Get real.

  • Christina Skelton

    I love this idea and want it in nj as well we should be aware of what is in the people we have in our lives past and being single again i want to know if who i would potentially date has a background of domestic violence. Its our right to protect ourselves from this tragity I just wish there was more support for it.

    • Raven01

      Then people dating you should have access to information on whether you have instigated Dv or accused anyone of sexual impropriety of any nature only to have been found to have made it up out of whole cloth, correct?
      The tragedy( yes not “tragity”) is that New York has in place laws which require MEN that are being assaulted by WOMEN, who call the cops instead of hitting back………. to be ARRESTED.
      Did that sink in? A man, taking the high road and not lowering himself to participating in domestic violence WILL BE ARRESTED and placed on this idiotic registry if he asks for HELP.
      Check the CDC 70% of one way domestic violence is perpetrated by women….. I cannot make this stuff up.

    • Suzan

      Very powerful article, thank you for posting and all the recognition you give to domestic violence. I look forward to reading more entries in the future.
      I have come across a wonderful and inspiring blog about the struggles a woman faces while piecing her life back together again after the abuse has ended. Here is the link if anyone is interested:



  • Kat

    This is a horrible idea.
    1. It will be used only against violent men and not against violent women. And many non-violent abused men will be put there since the police generally arrest the man even if he is hurt. None of this helps prevent any future violence.
    2. At some point for every crime…if they did the time you must let them live in society. Otherwise there is no chance of them becoming productive citizens.
    3. Note: many on the sex offender registry are NOT convicted and many are just guilty of lewd behavior (urinating in public).

    As previously stated, most domestic violence is mutual and women abuse men as often as men abuse women. By ignoring this, we don’t help anyone even the abused women you want to protect.

  • Ray2447

    Women’s domestic violence against men is grossly under reported, while male victims are still routinely being ignored by the taxpayer funded domestic violence industry. Credible research overwhelmingly shows that the ratio of domestic violence is at least 50/50 between women & men. Go to Fiebert Bibliography. According to one study by researchers who work at the CDC, in 70 percent of domestic violence incidents, where the d.v. is not mutual, it’s women who initiate the d. v. Go to Respecting Accuracy in Domestic Abuse Reporting. Click on the link under the red & blue pie chart. D.v. law follows a gender feminist agenda over facts & does great harm to many innocent men & also many violent women. Go to Youtube, “Los Misandry.” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAmOxvudpF8

  • Ray2447

    Domestic violence will never end as long as the whole truth about it is misrepresented to comply with feminist ideology. V.P. Biden recently called violence against women, “the very worst abuse.” The very worst abuse is valuing one life less than another for having been born the wrong gender. Under domestic violence law, the wrong gender is men. Shelter and services are virtually non-existent for male victims of domestic violence. Options out of a bad relationship, that women have, are often not available to men. Men wind up gender profiled by the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry, because of gender feminist ideology controlling the d.v. industry. Men are often battered by domestic violence, and then battered again by the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry as shown in “Los Misandry” at Youtube. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAmOxvudpF8

  • Ray2447

    How about a registry for all the mothers who abuse their children? Deaths of little children, killed by their mothers, is egregious. Yet the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry disingenuously tries to make us believe that women are the main victims. According to the U.S. Dept of Health and Human Services and DOJ statistics, more kids are killed by neglect and abuse in a year (1,760 in 2007), than all the female intimate partner homicides in a year. Mothers are the single largest group of kid killers, according to HHS, and they have a rate twice that of fathers. Nowhere near the money is spent to protect kids from kid killing mothers as is spent by the domestic violence industry to protect women. The taxpayer funded d.v. industry is a bastion of misandrist vilification, falsely accusing men of being the overwhelming cause of d.v., and empowering violent women to commit further domestic violence. The corruption of the taxpayer funded, domestic violence industry is characterized in “Los Misandry” at Youtube.

  • Suzan

    Please check out this blog to read about what a victim struggles with coping after the abuse, VERY POWERFUL!


  • BobSutan

    This would be wonderful if the courts actually went after women when they commit DV, which is as often as men in bidirectional DV and are 70% of the perpetrators of unilateral DV. It would finally give men a resource to check to see if the women they’re dating are crazy or not.

  • http://truthjusticeca.wordpress.com Denis P

    There are several problems with the current system of treating victims and perpetrators of domestic violence. The most often ignored problem is that the majority of domestic violence is reciprocal and interactive. Also, often neglected is that the greatest predictor of harm to women is their own history of domestic violence

    Picking a winner and loser and punishing them doesn’t solve the underlying psychological problems.

    In the majority police calls, there are no physical injuries or evidence to prove who the abuser is. In such cases of uncertainty, the police rely on dominant aggressor profiling; larger, louder, more money, more often male. Mandatory arrest and restraining orders can actually increase recidivism, especially with those who are further marginalized and have little to lose.
    Will a registry help anyone? Of course not, barely anybody will ever bother looking and most of the real abusers don’t ever get effective treatment. Worst of all, the cycle of domestic violence will continue to be taught to children as nearly half of the abusers and victims aren’t even recognized and nobody is effectively treated.

    • phil white

      A lot of abusers are violent because of bi-polar genetics.
      Also the women who are “serial marriers” of abusers apparently are subconsciously seeking marry a man who has similar personality traits to the wifes abusive parent.
      According to psychologist John Bradshaw(popular in the early 1990’s), marrying and abusive man is an attempt to gain another chance to fix the flawed relationship with the abusive parent.
      As to the bi-polare genetics, another factor is bi-polare personalities offten subconsciously recognize each and marry precisely because they share some genetic driven personality tratis.
      But Bradshaws theory is I think the correct one in most instances..
      People with violent crime convictions might well be placed on a public list, but not just one for abusive spouses.

      • Raven01

        Again, you say “abusive man”. It is not and never has been a woman=victim, man=abuser situation.
        Check with the CDC if you don’t believe me. In violence where men attack women or women attack men with no retaliation it is about a 50-50 split on which gender is abusive….. In reciprocal violence (where both hit eachother) women initiate it 70% of the time. So there would be quite a number of people that were actually just exercising lawful self-defense that would end up on this farce of a registry.
        It is a government version of “dontdatehimgirl.com” which, was found to contain so many cases of false accusations that I believe the owner shut it down over fears of being sued.

        ^^^ Look at who is not getting any help and contrast that to who you think is always the victim and who needs more “protection”.

  • Raven01

    What a dumb idea.
    Almost every single divorce lawyer representing a woman will suggest making false accusations as a tactic to get what she wants. And as we’ve all seen it is entirely possible to have people convicted wrongly. The legal system hasn’t been about guilty or innocence for a long time it is about who can buy their “justice”.
    Seriously, does one person think that O.J. was innocent? He bought his freedom. Now shoe on other foot do most people have his kind of resources or are they more likely to not be able to afford to defend themselves?

    • Raven01

      Oh look…. New York already AUTOMATICALLY arrests men in DV calls no matter who is the aggressor…….. unless he happens to be living with a huge woman.


      And you really think none of those guys are going to be wrongfully convicted? Then you want to further ruin a victim of DV’s life by portraying them as a criminal for calling the cops instead of physically fighting a woman that was beatting him?
      Just a law to LOOK like politicians are doing something. You’d get more bang for your buck by telling women that if they insist on chasing after the “bad boy” to expect their life is going to suck.

  • Toni in nyc

    It is clear to me that most of the posters here have no clue what they are talking about,, first of all rudy101 you are an idiot. The registry will list CONVICTED DOMESTIC ABUSERS, and while i personally think it doesn’t go far enough, its a start. Maybe we can or should tattoo the word COWARD or just the letters DA on their faces after they spend a night in prison for hitting a woman. There are already registries for CONVICTED child molesters and animal abusers, why not for CONVICTED abusers of women?

    • Izzey

      @ Toni in nyc
      It is crystal clear to ME, that you think all domestic violence abusers are men, and men alone. Why are there only photos of women portrayed as the abused?
      Do you have any idea how many men are beaten, stabbed, or killed by women?

      You must live in a cave.
      Please tell me how you get internet there.

      The whole world needs to wake up. Domestic violence abusers, nor their victims, is gender specific….or exclusive.

      Did you ever see a woman slap a man and not get slapped back? She gets ‘a pass’ and he takes the abuse because he was taught to not ever hit a woman. That is the worst kind of abuse, because the woman banks on her ‘gender privileges’ to get away with DOMESTIC VIOLENCE….that usually accelerates.

      But if a man slapped you…you would put him in jail in a heartbeat, now wouldn’t you? I don’t suppose you are one of those women that believes in ‘equal rights’ are you? Because if there was true equality in the justice system, more than half of those names would be of WOMEN.

      And yes, a WOMAN is telling you this.
      Wake up, Princess.

      • BobSutan

        OUTSTANDING response. Thank you!

    • Tony in nyc is a loser

      Tony in nyc obviously you have a problem with men you f*****g c**t.

  • fed up

    I have been saying for years that the law maker will not stop at the sex offender reg. ( wich does nothing) I have said next they will want the abuse reg. pad parent reg. animal abuse reg. (already been done) on and on it will go. Soon enough we will all be on a reg. for one thing or another. It will get to the point you will need to show your papers just to walk down the street. Then the law maker can stand up and shout, see I care about you VOTE FOR ME I guess they will make this reg. retroactive like the sor as well. Had an issue 20 or 30 years ago, your now on the list. Promlem is d. abuse can be as little as brushing up against a person. I got arressted many years ago when I found a women makeing a drug deal on my phone. I yelled at her and grabbed MY phone from her hand. She called the police and I was arressted for asault! Off to jail I went. No I was not doing drugs and no I did not say she could make that type of call. So just like the sex reg. the smallest thing will now trash you forever. HMMMM who is going to pay for this reg? Hey law maker try and get your head out of you but and run the country for a change.
    I’m all for a reg. that list any politician out there that lied. Did not do as they promised and or only vote with the lobby or people that fund them for perks. Do you think we will ever see that reg? it willl be to big to handle

  • Dina Tush

    THERE IS ALREADY LEGISLATION OUT- THE DANIELLE DI MEDICI AND JESSICA TUSH LAW BILL #5396 Through Assemblyman Matt Titone- Staten Island- He has been working on it for over a year. It is a Domestic Violence Registry. This Registry is for Convicted Domestic Violence Offenders- it will be the same as the Sex Offenders and Child Molesters Registry. It will be a warning sign to potential partners- to warn them that the person they are dating has a history of DV. Because the end result to DV is DEATH.

    I am the mother of a 19 year old girl who was murdered by her ex- boyfriend. He is currently serving 20 years in a YOUTH FACILITY. He will be out when he is 39 years old. He has shown no signs of remorse- nor did his family. There is great risk that he has not or will not change. God help the next girl he dates. Since my daughters murder, several of his ex-girlfriends have contacted me and told me of their fearful relationships with him- ranging from threats of death, getting thrown out of a moving car on a highway, getting hit, punched, slapped and verbally abused. He is an animal. We NEED a Registry to warn others of the potential dangers to them.

    IF THEY DON’T WANT TO BE ON A REGISTRY- THEN DONT DO THE CRIME. ONE IN THREE GIRLS ARE IN A VIOLENT RELATIONSHIP. Look around you because it is probably someone you know. It may even be your child- and you may never know until the police are knocking on your door asking you to identify your child’s body. I will be forever heartbroken over the loss of my child. I am trying to save you the eternal agony of the loss my family suffers. NOW HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS REGISTRY???

    Please check out our Facebook page- The Jessica Tush Act- Bill 4596- to educate children about Dating Abuse, Respect, Self Esteem and How to Handle Rejection.

    Thank you, May God keep you safe.

    • Rudy101

      Don’t worry, when they get all the men on the registry, that’ll be MORE FOR YOU, eh? Just make sure they don’t make you register for lying! You could be a level 3 pathological one and EVERYONE should know.

      You do know, that banishment and shame ONLY leads to HIGHER levels of violence, right?

      NO. you don’t.

      The registry is the finishing of any pretense that the U.S. is a free country. People should be warned about how dangerous you are. I know, you want to shroud yourself in pain and suffering, and through that, you believe you have some sort of moral high ground.

      EVERYBODY HURTS! And people are absolutely clueless about how to choose mates. When the whole country is in pain and has no idea where to turn to when it comes to making the right choices about our lives, you will get LOTS of d.v.

      Domestic Violence happens because of frustration and lack of control. Those behaviors can be learned and controlled.

      Making a list and checking it twice will ONLY lead to MORE dead bodies and MORE depraved violence.

      Well, you love a registry! That way you don’t have to think!

  • Rudy101

    Hey, what a great idea, a domestic violence registry! In America, nothing can be forgiven EVER! Especially MEN!

    It is all because of MEN! They fill the sex offender registry; they fill the streets with homelessness, they fill the prisons.

    On the other side of the human equation sits women. They have halos and never use violence in any way.

    You need MORE registries! About 40% of all adult males have some sort of criminal conviction somewhere. They rest are saints.

    What you need in America is a list of all those who lack halos. That way the women can know who to date and who not to.

    All women make choices based upon character, decency and kindness. Women never have to worry about those virtues. It is innate in them.

    Since when did the idea of freedom have anything to do with FREEDOM. Shame is NOT a punishment. Banishment is the natural outcome of criminal activity. There will be NO HEARINGS and NO argument for all you domestic violence convictions! On the list you go and say goodbye to your life!

    GET OUT!

  • Joke

    Please hurry up and pass this bill so that we can totally eliminate the institution of marriage which by the way, is where most all domestic violence issue’s occur. This way, you can have the man put on a domestic violence registry, and when the inevitable divorce comes, you can have him on the child support registry too. Under the definition of domestic violence, you are going to have one really big registry. And lot’s and lot’s of money for the lawyers, judges, police and everyone else who is connected to the criminal injustice system. If it did not involve money my fellow citizen’s, they wouldn’t even discuss it in Albany. Don’t think for a minute these idiots who want to pass this bill care about you. They don’t.

  • Rod in

    These women keep picking these abusive guys to marry. They ask for it. Now they’re playing for sympathy.

  • Hmmmmm

    This is exactly why this registry is a bad idea. I’m sorry if this really happened to you but the man hasn’t even been convicted of anything yet. And look at all of the contradictions in your statement. How do you know he is online dating? Are you stalking him? Did he rape you before, during or after your 2 YEAR relationship? Sounds a little fishy to me. All you care about is stopping him from dating. I don’t think you are sincere about protecting other women. Are you sure ERIC ADAMS didn’t put you up to this?

  • Stephanie Nixon

    I was dating a NYC Fireman for 2 years. He is now facing 3 felony charges, a criminal contempt charge and a Misdeamer Charge for Choking me half to death. He is currently on line dating on pof and is out on bail. We should have a law that saves other women from these abusive men. They have no limits. Court dates keep getting adjourned and yet they are free to prey on others. This Fireman tried to kill me, raped me twice and now is dating telling his own made up story to these innocent victims. Something must be done.


      never date a Fireman they can not keep here hoses in Stephanie.PS They are all Heroes don’t you know that?

    • stephanie nixon is a loser

      Probably brought it on yourself as you probably initiated the violence.

  • Kellen W.

    I think it is a great idea. And long overdue. This is PUBLIC information. Available simply by going to your local courthouse. I don’t understand how public dollars could be lost by publishing what is already out there. That being said, don’t you think the guy trolling on-line would just use a different name? Still, as a domestic violence victim, let ’em roll….but ’em online. They should be there already.


      It’s not about public dollars. That is just a smoke screen to save face because this was a bad idea from the start. Haven’t we learned our lesson people. THE WEALTHY ELITE USES THE MEDIA WHICH THEY OWN TO SCARE PEOPLE INTO ALLOWING THESE CROOKED POLITICIANS WHICH THEY OWN TO PASS LAWS THAT THEY CAN USE AGAINST THE PEOPLE LATER.

  • Stephen

    I think it’s long over due, and if it save’s 1 life, then it’s worth it.

    • True Lies

      Pull your skirt down Amy. I know it’s you.

  • B.S. Alert

    GREAT! Another law giving power to today’s psychopathic woman. Will this registry be used equally like child support, child custody and spousal support (sarcastic)? Is the registry for yelling or does the abuse have to be physical? Will we have a registry for people who file false police reports? Where is ERIC ADAMS on this topic today? The WHITE MAN’S DOG was the tip of the spear on this issue last week when the perp was a person of color.

  • ABM



    How about a registry for cops that kill innocent unarmed people? I definitely need to know if one of them is in the neighborhood.

  • Amy

    I not only think but definately agree that a man who can violate a woman, put her down, make her feel unworthy, strip her financially should definately have to report to a registry so that a woman can do a background check on who they meet and get out of the relationship before she becomes his next victim. On the other hand, the victim that presses charges, registry or not, is alway at risk of her life. Sociopathic behavior can be hidden and people have a right to know.

    • Naaah

      Why don’t you just use your WOMAN’S INTUITION that I hear about all the time?

  • Mark

    Great idea, if done with the victim’s consent. Because it’s assumed that it only happens in blue collar households, the threat of exposure to the PhD sporting corporate giants (like my mom’s second husband) would be practical just deserts.

    • C THRU U

      Why didn’t you defend your mother and punch him in the face like a man?

      • http://truthjusticeca.wordpress.com Denis P

        AKA, domestic violence by proxy. It’s quite common, just as repugnant

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